depends on unhappy, if unhappy is abusive, then split. if unhappy is i have my soul mate brad pitt waiting for me, think who is more important, brad or my kids.
It's always tough when children are involved. I have some friends who said their parents stayed together for the kids and after the kids were grown they divorced. I also know some kids who blamed their rebellious ways because of their parents separation.
Never use your kids as an excuse to stay in an unhappy relationship. Kids feed off of the vibe and it's not cool. As long as both parents don't change the way they treat their kids and continue to love & support them, there's no need to worry about their kids best interest. Do what you need to do be be happy unselfishly. Work it out or get out.
Have you ever noticed when parents divorce, that they now lose the ability to properly discipline their kids? They spend so much less time with their kids, so the time they do spend with them they want to be special and fun. And the parents feel guilty about the changes they've forced on the kids, and don't want the kids to get upset - so they end up doing to much to try and make the kids happy (spoiling them).
Yes, each parent will want to be the favorite parent of the kid so they spoil them. When you are together, you can always play good cop bad cop but when you separate, both parents want to be the good cop therefore you have kids that get their way much more easily.
What Honey says is not a crock of bulls___. You do realize you're talking about an entirely different scenario than Honey? Honey is talking about when parents split up, then you talk about them remarried. You do see how you saying, "That's a crock of bulls___" is incredibly ridiculous? Unless of course you simply forgot to mention that there's some sort of mandate that all divorced parents remarry.
Yes, my example was only for if the parents separate. If any of the parents remarry, then things will be different. The children still has a chance of getting spoiled more than normal when the spouse of the parent feel like they have to win you over by giving you physical gifts.
Kids are really perceptive and will most likely be able to sense when their parents are unhappy. If the parents are fighting a lot, then their household is not going to be positive, and they aren't doing their kids any good by staying together.
You guys talk like your from the middle class... if your poor and living In the ghetto you would be happy to know u have a roof over your head. Then u think about food. Those key things far surpass the importance of a strong nuclear family. Therefore I think u should stay together but you should make every attempt to raise your kids with good values. Otherwise, the chances of success are very slim in this cutthroat world where only the strong survive.
Go ahead, try and grow up on your own. Let's see how far you get without the right direction....
I don't really understand what you are trying to say. Can you please clarify your stance? I'm not saying I agree or disagree. I just think you have a point but are not expressing it clearly. Or it could be I am not reading it accurately.
I believe Cereberus is trying to say that parents should stay together for economic survival. Staying together brings you more economic advantages than you would be if you are separated.
Well my husband and I split after 3 years of marriage because we fought all the time and we just weren't happy. He was actually my kids step dad not their real father but they loved him like a dad and it was very hard on them, but after a year apart and some counseling we got back together and things are alot better now. My youngest son tells us all the time I'm glad you got back together and you don't fight like you use to and he was pretty young when we we're fighting so that definitely had an impact on him. I didn't want them growing up thinking thats what marriage was about or they would just repeat what they had seen me do. You have to think of whats best for the kids in the long run.
You just don't get it....
Honey is talking about when parents split up, then you talk about them remarried. You do see how you saying, "That's a crock of bulls___" is incredibly ridiculous? Unless of course you simply forgot to mention that there's some sort of mandate that all divorced parents remarry.
Go ahead, try and grow up on your own. Let's see how far you get without the right direction....